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So, you may remember that Emaline decided she wanted to be a big girl and wear underpants last summer. So I went all in with her and she was doing kind of great. Then, she started doing not so great. I blame myself really. I was pregnant and sick and basically on the couch all the time.
I feel like we go back and forth between doing awesome for a few days and then not so much. I really have tried all the methods that I found on pinterest, and some worked awesome at first. Like the 3 day method. And the whole letting her drink juice boxes non stop. But I just don’t know what to do anymore. I feel so overwhelmed and frustrated with it. She rarely has pee accidents. We keep a little potty in the family room and she is mostly pants-less at home; so she just sits on the potty and goes when she needs to. Or sits on it whenever we ask her to.
Emaline is my stubborn child. When she doesn’t want to do something, it’s not going to happen. And everything has to be on her terms. She’ll put herself in timeout rather than apologize for breaking Eli’s LEGO creation or refuse to eat her dinner even if it means watching the rest of us eat ice cream because she doesn’t want to sit at the table.
Since the internet knows all, I decided to list the main issues were having and see if any of you mamas out there have overcome similar issues with potty training and have some wisdom for me:
- She keeps pooping in her underpants. This is our main issue. She stopped telling us altogether when she has to poop and she’ll just go in her underpants and tell us immediately when she’s done. “I pooped already” or my favorite…”I did something naughty.” She does not like sitting in the poop, but she appears to have no desire to sit on the potty when she has to poop. The only time she’ll actually try to poop on the potty is at night, when she doesn’t want to be in bed. And homegirl will tell us she has to poop a minimum of 4 times. Super fun.
- She doesn’t care if I put her back in diapers. And taking privileges away really has no weight with her. She’ll willingly give me toys back or be okay without getting any iPad time. She just shrugs and says she guesses she’s a baby then since babies poop in their pants. She may even have climbed into the crib in the nursery today, since thats what babies do…
- She won’t go on public toilets. We have a tiny toilet at church that she will use, but that’s really the only place she won’t throw a fit when I try to get her to go when we’re out. I’m talking face down, on the public bathroom floor, yelling fit. It’s delightful. And we’re out often, at least 4 days a week we’re out until nap time. So those days she’s in a Pull-Up.
- Bribes only work short term. She will go however long to get her bribe–candy or ice cream or an outing or a toy–and then once she gets it she will go right back to pooping in her underpants, so I know she can do it, she’s just so stinking stubborn. I’m convinced she doesn’t get how bribes work because half the time she’ll ask me for a treat when she poops in her underpants. Sorry, babe. That is not how this works.
Okay, so tell me what to do. Please, I beg of you. In a couple months I’ll have a fresh new babe to take care of and won’t have time to wash poopy underpants every single afternoon.
But really, isn’t this tee from River Babe Threads perfect for my stubborn little miss? When I told her what it said, she kept saying “and I’m no quitter!” You can use code MONKEYANDMAMA over at River Babes Threads to get 15% off! AND it’s a Michigan company, so all of you fellow mamas in the mitten–shop local
Sometimes, you just have to laugh to keep from crying. Right? Isn’t that what they say…
But seriously, I need some advice so tell me what to do in the comments. I’m begging you.